27 Dec’23 -13th feb’24 - I’m still in awe of how I did it, I’m elated with a lot of spark⚡️thank you universe for this thrilling experience!
from Jodhpur - Mt. Abu - Udaipur - Pune - Bangalore - Coimbatore - Kanniyakumari - Madurai - Mysuru - Goa - Bombay - Lonavala - Bombay - Shirdi - Nagpur - Ayodhya - Allahbad - Mathura-Vrindavan - Delhi 🩵
I came to Delhi, NCR on 7th feb, however back to home only on 13 feb to sleep in my bed, from where I started this journey!
My take on this journey :
1) time is now, for everything you have ever wanted to start, do, dream! Do not wait for the so called right time in your head, you make the time right by taking charge, only you can give yourself everything that you need.
2) invest in your body, health yes, though pursue a sport, any sport get physical, run, walk, move, stretch, swim, dance, sweat for an hour daily, you are not a tree yet, regret is so mainstream try guts. Stay hydrated, make h2O your best friend, take a leak at gas stations, when you hault for fuel top ups, choose clothing that covers you head to toe for clear security reasons while on highways. Wear sport shoes, be prepared to run, so ensure while driving you have slept at least 6 hours as a minimum. I broke this rule twice as I was faultering on my timeline and it resulted in a notorious head spin which lasted me a long time, avoid this stunt.
You can achieve many things, though not everything on one journey. Choose your pick wisely.
3) invest in a descent car, as per the roads you spend max time in, I spotted the old fortuner and nano maximum on roads over all, 79 fortuners to be precise the old ones, new ones are a scam from the investment point of view. Toyota and Tata are genuinely the best for Indian roads and then comes Maruti if you need budget and road safety on point.
Know your vehicle at the back of your palm, from changing stepney to checking engine oil, to knowing when to rotate your tyres, keep all papers updated. Choose a speed as per road safety, do not over speed even if you are faultering on your timelines. This is one advise I tried very hard adhering to🤦🏻♀️
4) be friendly though be generic with strangers, like my fav reply to anyone who asked me where I am from was - Bharat, it’s true yet not specific. Interact a lot, though try to consume more than you deliver from your surroundings in regards with communication, it will leave you spellbound, and grow you humble in life over all. When it comes to acts of service practice vice versa deliver more than you consume always!
5) if you choose to drive a long distance like me, choose funny feed on your music system, it’s impossible to fall asleep while you are constantly laughing. Keep fresh seasonal fruits with you, if you believe in fasting, this is not the time to practice, please fuel your body. Constant driving requires precision, and food is a medicine. I chose fruits.
6) keep a list of big hospitals handy, whatever route you plan, keep emergency contact numbers informed of your major stops (I did not update anyone unless anyone made an effort to call me to know what am I upto😜) though do it incase you aren’t as whacky as I am, it’s a sensible way to travel.
The only people I chose to meet on this travel on schedule were the ones who checked up on me and genuinely wanted to see me and pat my back for this solo adventure. Else I only met strangers and by the time I left destinations I left families waiting for my next travel, so travel so gracefully that you create families in each destination to come back to.
7) explore the local food, indulge in flavours, ask for recipes to bring back home. Pick meaningful souvenirs of the most basic order, like I bought back the pious mitti from nidhivan, vrindavan to keep wrapped in the cloth in the home mandir. radhe radhe glass bangles, mango barfi from iskon, boozy chocolate jar from goa, one flower 🌹 an 11 year young gave me with love from udaipur, perfume bottle my aunt gave me in bombay, om sai ram kada in shirdi, and nandi cow figurine along with laxmi narayan, jai shree ram ring from Ayodhya, tulsi 📿 I was given at taj lands end, bandra, another smaller tulsi mala I was given in vrindavan post a blessing, a book my friend gave me in pune, a super meal I had in bangalore at my friend’s outlet, an appreciative hand written note I was handed in goa instead of the bill, trishul 🔱 I picked in coimbatore, a short trip to lonavala I was gifted by my aunt, a lip smacking hummus platter and berry cooler I was pampered with by my friend in lonavala, the stay and hospitality I was showered with at Allahbad by pious souls, stay I was gifted at gurugram by my friend to relax and splurge into post 17 destinations, a special palace tour I was honoured with at Mysuru by his highness, overwhelming experience at the Meenakshi temple Madurai, and a big bindi packet by the very sweet police & madurai temple authorities that got floored by my ability to drive all the way solo haha! a free car wash at kanniyakumari hotel stay, along with a packet of tapioca chips by the owner who was nearly my late fathers age, who got super impressed by my fluency in tamil and dress sense, super captures of garbh grah at Ayodhya, Allahbad & Vrindavan, a new gujju friend for life in Mt. Abu, another fantastic friend I made in Udaipur, super meeting with Dua Lipa and Sadhguru, consumption of bheeksha and prasadam at most of the temples, meeting with my friend in Shirdi and over all meeting people and friends on this travel, a contest participation in Udaipur that gave me a box of skin care from a beauty brand ✌️ , meeting friends from delhi in goa, two super friends I made in goa, and a family who spent good times with me during breakfasts in goa, oranges in nagpur and I guess the list will keep going on.
I hope I have done justice by mentioning most of them all. Phew! Needless to say I bought back home dry prasad from all these places.
8 ) go beyond the usual, customise your experience, invest in experience, you don’t take such trips every so often, so maximise and it’s ok to detour a lil, soak in, pause, breathe and then proceed. I am wild so I picked up wild flowers and peculiar shaped stones from various destinations, and do not stop to admire the beauty of the highways. Map your timelines so that you reach destination before the dawn and find cozy stays for that fresh daisy freshness!
You will be surprised there are awesome stays if you just do the right online surfing!
9) have sturdy suitcases, pack all essentials, first aid, all weather clothing, yes rains included, keep hygiene on point, my one entire handbag was hygiene & skincare. Good skin requires almost no makeup so invest in skin care more than cosmetics. Choose colours and styling that go with your body type, complexion, comfort and doesn’t ruffle with the surroundings. You can care less about the world and that’s ok, when you are on your solo expedition however you don’t want a spoiler punching in your face with raised eyebrows so do a thorough research on clothing. I saw some seriously vivid & misfit dressing of women and men both at many of these destinations.
And no India isn’t a backward country, it’s the most accommodating of the nations, the only one I have seen so far, with so many cultures prospering and growing. Super proud of this gem 🇮🇳 wear your style though respect your boundaries.
10) don’t race, chasers will give up and give you the way, being a solo woman driver on national highways, tends to attract a lot of attention as is, so give in to the impulse to speed fast the chasers nor look at them to avoid any drama!
Ignore the followers, don’t be on your mobile, drive steady, I’m glad Papa taught me driving it’s one of the best ways I am living, keeping him alive in all of my journeys. Drive far and wide, drive safe. NHAI has some awesome quotes on driving.
11) don’t drink and drive, there were many road incidents I passed by, you have one life, please be grateful and don’t die a dogs death, complete your human life cycle and transition when you are scheduled to.
12) please take a solo travel, you get a lot of time with yourself while driving if you choose long journeys, you will heal and reveal a lot about yourself, it’s mindblowing.
We all are bruised, none of us have completely overcome traumas in our life, most of us had to be strong more than being happy in walks of life, so solo travels while you drive in your mini moving home, help you with a sense of accomplishment after reaching each destination, you feel a little empowered and it’s a little feeling of alignment that clears your blockages. You truly see more clearly and are able to decide what is it that you want to do with your time.
Many people are working a job they don’t want to, though that’s what gives them a living and so switching jobs is a deeply rooted fear that’s very hard to overcome. It doesn’t matter how much you earn, who you marry, what you lost, what matters is, if all of this adds up to your inner calling. People divorce after 40 yrs because they couldn’t replace the comfort and finally it hit them hard that it’s not the comfort they were looking a replacement for but the guts.
Break out of your fears and nurture your true calling, you will find a way to go about it. Surrender to the universe. Don’t sit and waste time for 40 yrs just because you are reluctant to be called mad. Madness is genius.
13) love yourself truly, it’s a very long journey you have to spend with yourself, your family, your traumas, your partner, even your worries will leave you and go with the change in your life cycle at some point however your love for yourself will only strengthen your core, your fundamentals are genuinely a building block for your moksha.
Invest in your self a lot, self care is not a vice, it’s the only way you can ever give back to this world. Generational beliefs are very tough to unlearn, however do if you must.
Make your goals bigger than your excuses, correct yourself often so that you are filtered into a precision ball of gratification. Loose as many people if you must, however please don’t loose yourself🙏
You are so unique and important that you can practically achieve and deliver all of what you are capable to dream about.
Believe in yourself, pull people up, help yourself in order to truly help people around you.
14) few facts : competition destroys personality, cheating is a choice and not a mistake it almost always follow a pattern, verbal, physical and mental abuse isn’t cool, revenge is a waste of time.
If a man cheats in a relationship, it’s a direct reflection of his relationship with his father, if a woman cheats, she has been cheated upon in the past by the one man who she made her everything!
Trauma builds a man, however trauma destroys a woman and scars her for life, that’s why his past doesn’t matter however her past does.
Men release oxytocin after sex only when they are in love with the woman, however women after sex always release oxytocin this is why women always get attached with physical intimacy and men are able to pull away if the association didn’t occupy enough space in their core.
No man can be kept unless he wants to be kept, money, looks, love don’t mean anything if a man isn’t willing to keep a relationship.
A man if in love is capable to justify a marriage with a concubine however the same man if not in love will end a relationship with a princess, so never settle for less ladies, there are people who find time to pursue extra marital affairs inspite of two kids and a gorgeous life and marriage, don’t ever let anyone fool you they were busy.
If anyone fails to find time for you and prioritise you, please move on. You have limited time for your own growth, utilise it on the right focuses.
More, later 🙃🩵🙏
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