Himmate marda madade khuda!

 

Bachpan se hum mata-pita ke ehsaas ko sabse kareebi aur surakshit paate hain, yeah ek maatr anubhav hamari zindagi bhar ki daud aur jaddo-jehad ka kaafi saral sankshep rehta hai..

Agar aap chote bhai-behan mein se hoon toh aapse pehle aapka bada jo pyar aur upbringing unhi same mata pita se leta/leti hain voh aapko kabhi nahi milti, aesa nahi ki mata pita koi bhed bhav karte hain, lekin kehne vaale ne spasht roop se sahi hi kaha hai - that no two children of the same set of parents get the same set of parenting.

Parenting is really a roller coaster ride not only for parents however for children too. 

Pehla baccha pehle pyaar ki tarah hota hai, voh anubhav har mata-pita keliye sakariye roop se mehtavpoorn aur anek jazbaaton ki kadi se lipta hota hai..jese jo pehli baar maa banne vaali ho, voh duniya bhar ke parhez, har kadam pe chaukanna rehte huye apna har ek pal nikalti hai, aap kisi bhi gaon ka example le sakte hain- auratein paani ke matke bharne se lekar ghar ke sabhi kaam karti hain, bachcha bhi normal delivery aur aasani se hota hai, chalte phirte ghar bhi aajati hain aur dobaara garhati ke karyoon mein doob jaati hain..vaheen ek naya pita - paise jod ke har latest khilona jo bhi uski haisiyat ke thodha sa bahar ho voh tak ikkattha karta hai aur apne aane vaali santaan ka pure dil se intezar karta hai, bachhe ke aane ka intezar mata-pita ko aur kareeb karta hai, yeah bhawna har ek couple mehsoos zaroor karta, chahe unhone bachhe ki planning kari ho ya nahi bhi 🤣😂 lekin aapsi pyaar umadhta zaroor hai..

Bachhe ke aane ke baad, sab kuch naya hota hai, dada-dadi, ghar pariwaar, sabhi khushi se jhoom uthte hain agar ghar mein pariwarik tanav ho to sab kuch peeche rakh ke sabhi ek sath uss nanhi si jaan ka achhe se swagat karte hain..

Parents eventually kaafi kuch naya seekhte hain apne khudh ke bachpan ke baare mein aur apne mata-pita se zyaada connect karte hain..yeah sab chal hi raha hota hai, phir entry hoti hai dusre bachhe ki 🤣😂 koi 1 saal mein entry kar leta hai koi chaar saal mein koi koi ek se hi bass kar lete hain..khair iss baar dusre bachhe ke time Parents ke paas experience hota hai, toh jab voh rota/roti hai, adhiktar maa-baap ko pata hi hota hai ki kaise sab karna hai vagera..zid puri ki jaati hai, kyunki bade vaale ke saath sabhi aadarsh baant jo liye hote hain isliye chote vaalon ko adhiktar kaafi choot mil hi jaati hai..kyunki kaafi parents teesra plan nahi kar rahe hote toh ab dusra vaala hi unka khilona hota hai, voh bhi chahte hain ki thodhi riayat toh kar hi dete hain, lekin matashree ko sab dekhna hota hai, toh voh toh strict rehti hi hain, ki sab napa tula rahe..

Papa log adhiktar beton ke aur maa adhiktar betiyon ke saath sakht rehte hain..lekin yeah adhiktar ke anusaar keh rahi hoon main zaroori nahi har ghar ka yeahi mulayank ho..khair..toh yeah sab chal hi raha hota hai ki baatein aani shuru hoti hain..tezi se jawani aati hai, aur usi tezi se maa-baap budhe hone lagte hain..

Kabhi chote bade se pehle naukri shuru kar lete hain, kabhi bade kewal padhayi ko hi focus rakhte hain..phir ghar mein lehar aati hai inki shaadiyon ki - haan haan padhayi likhayi obviously maine speedometer pe tez rakha lekin aap samajh toh gaye honge hi..

Khair shadi ke time aati hai sabse badi pareeksha, manmotaav, jeewan bhar ki parwarish, izzat, maryada, icchayein, khwaab, vidhata par vishwas, saubhagya, sanskar, tavajjo, ehmiyat, narazgi, nazarandaazi aur sabse uppar maun aur blessings!!

Yeah sab bhawanayein pariwar mein aati hain, mostly, iss sabke baad shadi hoti hai, phir shadi ke dau-pech samajh aane shuru hote hain, tabh pata padhata hai ki aajtak jab suna tha ki Marriage is the most diplomatic among all relationships uski gehraayi vakya sach hai 🥳 asli pareeksha shadi kar lene mein nahi hai, shadi ko nibhane aur barkarar rakhne mein hai, phir hota hai vapas maa-baap ki jaddo-jehad ka ehsas, jab voh bachpan se kehte the ek baar shadi kar lo aate-daal ka bhav pata chalega aur hum sabhi again mostly hum sabhi bolte they arey yaar itni kanjoosi nahi karo, hum dekhna kaise sab kar lenge..😂🤣

Yeah sab chal hi raha hota hai, ki ek dum se news aati hai kabhi kabhi, kisi kisi pariwar mein ki ab kisi ek ke mata ya pita nahi rahe, shadi ke baad jo maa-baap keliye karna chahte hain hum sabhi, voh kaafi sapne adhure reh jaate hain, kuch toh mata-pita ko apni shadi tak bhi dekh nahi paate, kuch mata-pita apne pota-poti dekh nahi paate..utna hi saath likha hota hai..phir hum aur bade hote hain, ghar pariwar mein sab saath mein bade hote hain, vidhi ka vidhaan samajhne lagte hain..

Ramayan aur Mahabharat kareeb se samajhne lagne lagte hain, Geeta ka paath aur na jaane kya kya sabak samajhne lagte hai..aur chunautiyaan aati hain, kuch log shadi ke bahar sukoon paate hain, kuch maar-pitaayi se jhoonjhte hain, kuch log Porn addiction mein samate hain, kuch  drugs ke shikaar ho jaate hain..iss sabke uppar aati hai..manasikta..manovaigyanik kya karta hai - aapki isi maanasikta se aapko roo-baroo karta hai..kuch log sambhal jaate hain, kuch manovaigyanik ko bhi dhool chata aate hai..

main hamesha sabhi ko ek baat kehti hoon, koi bhi kisi dusre ki tarah nahi hota theek hamare fingerprints ki tarah, isliye koi bhi kabhi bhi kisi ko replace nahi kar sakta, hamare purvaj aur unke purvaj bhi jo fingerprints leke aaye they aaj tak kisi ek bhi manushya ka fingerprint kisi dusre se mel nahi khata, jisne iss brahmaan ka nirman kara hai uss se bada nirmata, karigar, kalakaar aur artist aur koi nahi hai, toh kuch seekhna hai toh uske sath judo aur bane raho, aapas mein comparison karna waqt zaya karna hai, koi bhi aapse behtar nahi hai agar aap apne aap ko behtar banane mein jujaro bane rahein usi prakaar koi bhi aapse neeche nahi hain agar aap uske pairon mein zameen rakhne ki kshamta rakhte hain, aap uski aankhoon mein hamesha aasmaan bankar raheinge..

Maa-baap agar apne bachhon ko dhan-sampatti ki bajaye ‘apna kaam swam karo’ ki seekh zyaada dein toh voh apne pairon pe khade hokar khudh ka dhan aur sampatti bana sakte hain, kewal unko sanskaar dein ki voh khudh apna pet paal sakein, pyaar dhan-daulat naam kar dena nahi hota.

Mera maan-na hai - jo bhi maa-baap kamate hain voh unko kisi Blind School, ya eye donation centres, ya apahij aur anaath ko dene se jitni duayein milengi voh aulaad ko dene se kabhi nahi milengi..

ek dog shelter ko bhi daan mein dedene se maano aap apna jeewan acharan swarg ke marg pe le ja padhenge.

Agar aapke bachhe aapke sanskaar se zyada koi bhi maatra ke dhan-sampatti ko tavajjo dete hain, aur aap apne budhape mein kewal unka sahara bana rahe isiliye mann maarke bhi unhi keliye aajeewan sangharsh mein jhulaste hain, toh aap apna margadarshan gava rahein hain..

Bacche voh kaabil hote hain, jo sab kuch khudh kamayein aur maa-baap ke kamaye dhan-daulat pe koi bhi haqk na jatayein.

60 saal ki Umar mein toh insaan sab kuch karke thodha free hota hai ki apni zindagi jeena shuru kar sake, yeah agar aajkal ki peedhi ke saath saath maa-baap bhi samajh jaayein toh voh apne liye samay nikal kar zarur holiday pe jaayein.

Padha likha diya, baaki aapke bachho ki khudh ki kismat, voh khudh banayeinge..aur agar kaheen fail hote hain, toh unhone voh kamaya hai, failure kabhi The End nahi hota, hamesha success ki bahut badi seedhi hota hai..jo bahut hi zaruri hota hai..

Main aaj garv karti hoon ki mere maata-pita ne mujhe itna saksham banaya hai ki kabhi kisi ke aage haath failana nahi padhe, jab kabhi bhi meri santaan hogi, main yeahi parwarish usko bhi dene ki koshish zaroor karungi..apne bachhon ki shaadi hone ke baad maa-baap ka shaadi mein koi bhi sujhaav na dena maine apne maata-pita se seekha hai..yeah shuruvaat mein toh kaafi kadwa aur ajeeb lagta hai kyunki Ramayan ka zamana nahi, lekin dheere dheere itna garv hone lagta hai, ki agar sab kuch ek pati aur patni par hi chodh diya jaaye unke vyavahit jeewan ke baare mein soch vichaar ke maamloon mein, toh vakya mein - doodh ka doodh aur paani ka paani - saanf dur baithe dikhayi dena shuru ho jata hai..theek chand aur suraj ki tarah, dur hain par durust hain..apne hone ka bharpoor nazara dete hain aur har din unki chamak mausami roop se badhti aur ghat-ti hai.

Koi toh vajah hogi ke jin logo ke paas mata-pita, rishtedaar, salah-mashvarah karne keliye koi bade buzurg nahi reh jate unko sadh buddhi dene, har kadam pe saath dene, uppar wala swam aajaata hai..

Kisi bhi rishte mein aap Loyality aur Trust pehle dete hain, tab jaake Love and Respect milti hai, yeah kabhi vice-versa nahi ho sakte, jo bhi log himmat haar dete hain, aatma hatya kar lete hain, vah log kamzor nahi hote, adhiktar log bas apna vatavaran badalne ke jujaro hote hain..lekin badal nahi paate anek karanon ki vajah se.

Achanak, bolne vaala insaan agar aapko chup lagne lage, achanak chup rehne vaala insaan agar aapko bolta dikhne lage, toh zaruri nahi ki voh hatash hi hua ho, kabhi kabhi bhawanayein bayaan nahi kari ja sakti, kewal mehsoos ki jaati hain, dur baithe ek vishwas ke saath ke jo kuch hota hai acche ke liye hi hota hai aur aage bhi jo kuch hoga achhe keliye hi hoga.

Kabhi kabhi jab koi apna pura jeewan bita kar apne time pe chala jata hai, sometimes such deaths are a Kindness !!

Women offices sambhaalti hain, women bosses kaafi achha bhi kar rahi hain alag alag fields mein, theek usi tarah jaise world ke kaafi best chefs purush hain, isliye Kitchen ko gender specific na banayein, aajkal ki peedhi se zyaada yeah mata-pita ko samajhna zaroori hai, cooking life skill hai, women ka talent nahi 🙅🏻‍♀️  Birju Maharaj - Kathak sikhate hain toh dance bhi kewal ladkiyon ka talent nahi, Qala manushya ke gender tak limited hona ek prakaar ki aesi soch hai jo khudh women across the world apni next generation women keliye adachan pradaan kar rahi hain..

Crime Patrol par bana ek bada hi funny video viral hua tha, stand up comedian bol raha tha - crime patrol vaale bol rahe hain ki Criminal toh crime karega hi tum ghar se apna badan leke bahar kyun ja rahe ho !? Voh toh murder karega hi..Gold ki chain gale se kaatne vaala toh kaatega hi tum gold ki chain pehan ke bahar kyun ja rahe ho !?

Hum sabhi iss viral video pe hanse toh bahut they, lekin baat ki gehraayi kitni sach hain, hum ladkiyon ke kapadon pe zyaada taana-kashi karte hain bajaye Rapist ki manasikta pe..

6 mahine ki beti toh diaper mein hoti hai, voh kya hi aur pehan sakti hai !? 80 saal ki lady maa/daadi ka swarup hoti hai - agar inme bhi ek rapist ko kewal apna swad dikhe toh changes laana bhi kewal hamare haath mein hi hona chahiye.

Bade time ke baad kuch likha hai..socha universe se isko share karun, kya maloom, kisi na kisi ko yeah padhne maatr hi raahat mile..

Main gyaani nahi hoon, na hi antar yaamihoon, lekin anubhavi zaroor hoon, inme se kaafi anubhav jiye hain maine..aur isliye ek shant aur khush mann se main har ek insaan ki himmat banna chahungi jise bhi kabhi baat karne yogya lagoon..

-aabhaar ❤️🙏