When a mother is unable or unwilling to mature into her own power, she will unconsciously reject or feel threatened by her daughters expression of confidence, power and authenticity. She may project her fears, disappointments and failures onto her daughter, cast judgement and expect her to hold all of her pain for her. The wounded mother doesn’t have the relationship to her power and puts herself in the victim seat even as she caused emotional and psychic injury.
It is therefore not upon any of us to mother our mothers. We are not here to carry on, hold or repeat their pain. We do not have to do it all alone, be the martyr, push love away or live in self rejection. Embodying the mother is more than giving birth to a human child, and each of us have the capacity to step into mother energy regardless of whether we choose to have children. To embody the mother, we must embrace self trust, own who we are without apology and allow ourselves to be a vessel for love and truth.
Healing the mother wound is a long process of journeying into the dark. It is a shedding of old beliefs, and dysfunctional patterns and a reclaiming of our own inner wisdom. It is finally letting ourselves be who we are without the need for approval.
To anyone who is in this arduous process now, you are not alone, however there will be moments where you and only you can guide yourself home.
We can love our mothers and set boundaries with them, we can love our mothers and take space.
For many of those among us, who grew up with mothers who biologically gave us life but could never own their power and embody the depths of mother energy, there is great healing and reclaiming to do.
For all those women who had to become mothers, before it was your time, there is great unlearning, healing and reclaiming to do. You were called to step into mother and wise women from a place of self-love rather than self-sacrifice. You were called to give and to nurture without pouring yourselves out endlessly. Recognise the wounded maternal lineage patters that want to live on through you and tend to slowly burn them off with love.
This work is not easy, however you are rewriting a story and it is the deepest soul work of all. Know that there are so many among us, across the globe carving a new path forward,holding the torch for the ones who come after us so they always know what it is to receive a mothers love.
P.S : This post is an amalgamation of many experiences that I have personally gone through, after meeting women who have left me nothing but in the state of awe, with richness of their sunshine!
I met myself half-way through in life, while building a foundation for myself going through some of these experiences.
Strength is always a choice. Please ‘try’ to choose wisely, you don’t even know how many people live because of the strength you showcase on your way to wreckage.
Love is a four letter word, spelled as P.A.P.A. Thank you for always being my fuel for existence Papa, your nourishment of values will simmer through my life.
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