Koi bhi vyakti agar aapse moh karta hai, vah aapko pyaar karne mein hamesha asafal hi rahega.
Vah chahe aapke mata-pita hoon aapka partner ho, bhai-behan ho ya aapke bachhe.
Pyar karuna par aadharit mukt karta hai, moh ahankaar par aadhaarit hamesha haavi rehta hai.
Pyar - mere bachche ko khushiyaan aur sahi galat ka marg hamesha dikhalna hey ishwar.
Moh - main hi mere bachchon ko khushiyaan, aur sahi-galat ka marg dikhla sakta hoon/sakti hoon.
Vastav mein moh se pala bada har vyakti, jeewan mein kaafi maat khaata hai, vah tarrakki hansil toh kar leta hai, lekin zyada samay tak uss tarrakki ko barkaraar nahi kar paata.
Short term goals, banane chahiye, lekin bada vision deemag mein rakhte huye, kabhi bhi kewal ‘go with the flow’ vali soch rishton mein nahi laani chahiye. Kewal dead fish goes with the flow, aap agar jeevit hain, toh aapka rukh anek karanon ki vajah se banega, ek seedh mein hi nahi chalta chalega.
Mere pehle post mein kisi ne pucha jo ghar mein purvajon ki tasveer tangi hoti hai, usey dekhte huye, dil nahi maanta ki unki banayi dhan-daulat kisi aur ke naam kar di jaaye, ki unhone badi mehnat se pet kaat ke ghar banaya tha, aur humko saunp gaye..
Badi hi achhi baat hai ki inn sajjan ne itni nekta se apne purvajon ko yaad kara.
Eye donation centre, dog shelter, vridh aashram, anaath, apahijoon ko daan mein dete samay bhi aapke hi purvajon ka naam Founders Stone pe unhi ki murti bana kar likha jayega, ki falana itna jiye, aese vichaar rakhte they, aur sab kuch society jisme rehte they, samajik rishte jo unhone banaye unko vapas de gaye, yeah bhi likha jaayega ki aap unki aulaad hain jinko voh itna kaabil bana gaye hain ki aap apne jaane tak itna saksham bane ki aap bhi society ko vapas deke jaaye jo aapne iss samaaj se liya-diya.
Acts of service keliye ek vah insaan hi soch sakta hai, jisne bachpan se pyaar mein paalan-poshan bitaya ho moh mein nahi.
Aapka bachpan bhinn-bhinn prakaar ke anubhavon se lipta hota hai, agar sabhi mata-pita apne bachhe ko moh ki bajaye, pyaar siksha mein dein toh unka bachcha kabhi kisi galat rah pe nahi jaayega.
Kitne mata-pita, galati mein bachhe ko kuch nahi bolte, ki unka baccha unse dur nahi ho jaaye unse nafrat nahi kar baithe, vaheen kuch mata-pita, sabke saamne apni hi santaan ladka ho ya ladki unki galati ka pradarshan karne mein peeche nahi hat-te, aese mata-pita bhale hi shuru mein bachhe ko kaafi jhoot bolne pe galatiyaan chupaane ke marg par le jaaye, lekin life long, aese bachhe aur aese mata-pita ka jeewan siddhantoon se bhara huya hota hai, yeah aese pariwaar hote hain jinhonne hamesha sach ka hi saath diya ho, chahe kewal pariwaar mein char hi log aajeewan ek dusre ke saath bane rahein.
Galtiyoon pe parda daalna, dekh ke bhi andekha kar dena, kewal isliye ki manmotaav banega aur baccha apne mata-pita ka sahara nahi banega budhape mein yeah kaafi low energy ki manasikta hai, isse aapka bachcha hamesha aapko chalata hi rahega, aur aap dhool hi chaat-te reh jayenge alag alag roop mein, vah itna dheent ban jaayega ki aapse zyada traas aapke jaan-ne vaalon mein aur kisi ko nahi hoga.
Aap khudh apne traas ki vajah ban rahe hain iss ko jitna jaldi ho sake theek karein.
Aese bachhe sabke mouh pe shaant bhale hi hoon, lekin inke andar ek bahut badi cheekh hoti hai jo inko barbaadi ke marg par lejake khada kar chuki hoti hai, duniya ki nazar mein aese bachhe acchi naukariyaan, rutbe vaale job portfolios bhale hi paa lein, lekin vaastav mein agar vah apne partner se jhoot hi bolein aur gaslight karein, toh aesi taleem ka kya nijaat !?
Koi bhi mata-pita, kabhi yeah nahi chahta ki unka bachcha porn addiction mein padh jaaye, lekin agar unke bachho mein, shaadi se pehle hi aese manasikta hai ki vah dark web par ajeeb-o-gareeb chats karte hain, anjaan logo se connect karke unse baat karke unko achha lagta hai, toh unka aatma-samman kam hota chala jata hai, unki immunity bhi affect hoti hai, unka vyavahik jeewan kabhi sukhmay nahi hota, kyunki vah kabhi apne partner ke emotional needs ko samajh hi nahi paate, unse connect hi nahi kar paate, vah hamesha low self-esteem, low confidence ka hi shikaar rehte hain, yeah beemari hai iske liye manovaigyanik se avashya sampark karein, lekin mata-pita ko apne bachho se khule dil se nivedan karna chahiye ki kam-se-kam manovaigyanik ko toh jaake unka bachcha apne vichaaron ke baare mein sach bayaan kare.
Isme unke bachchon ki zindagi mein aaye partner ki koi bhi galati nahi hoti, aapke bachhe mein jo kami hai, uspar parda daalne se unka vyavahit jeewan zyaada bade sangharsh se joonjhega.
Couples ek dusre ko samajh sakte hain aur solutions de sakte hain, solution pe work karna unke khudh ke haath mein hota hai..agar ghar mein doston ko bulake khana khilakar, achha time spend karke puraani baatein peeche rakh kar, couple aage badhte hain, aur uske baad bhi sabke ghar se jaate hi, aapka bachcha Porn hi dekhe toh phir yeah manasikta hai ki jese bhi thodha sa time haath lage aur vah apne zindagi mein yeah ek maatr manoranjan ko enjoy kare.
Agar kisi ke shaadi tootne par ban aaye aur phir bhi insaan dheent hi rahe toh phir aesa insaan alag hi ek level par pahunch chuka hai, usko vahaan se kewal aur kewal vah khudh hi laa sakta hai, aur voh bhi kewal tabh jab ki voh vahan se apni swam ki marzi se aana chahe. Yeah uska aur kewal uska choice hai.
Kaafi log kahenge porn toh sab dekhte hain, yeah toh normal hai..chahe yeah ek 80 saal ka manovaigyanik bhi bol de, ki yeah normal hai, aapko yeah samajhna bahut zaroori hai, ki yeah normal nahi hai, haan Sex Education ke baare mein Sexologist se consult karna bilkul normal hai. Sexologist agar bataye ki kaise kya karna hai ki emotional connect bane, voh normal hai.
Yeah maine kuch saal pehle bhi jab porn trafficking racket case aaya tha tabh bhi bola tha, koi bhi jo porn industry mein jaata hai, apni marzi se nahi jaata, toh unka shoshan dekhkar agar aap satisfied hote hain, ya ise ek prakaar ka manoranjan samajhte hain, toh yeah aapki manasikta dikhalaata hai.
Bahut log kahenge ki porn stars kaafi accha kama lete hain, khush hain, they seem enjoying on the screen, toh shaadiyaan toh vah bhi chalti hain saloon saal, jahaan log khush hi nahi, on screen jo dikhta hai vah sab 100% sach nahi hota, vah kewal ek pehlu hota hai.
Studies batati hain kuch couples saath mein porn dekhte hain, kyunki unke kehne anusaar kuch time baad boriyat aane lagti hai, toh kuch naya try karna hota hai..
Well yeah har couple par depend karta hai, ki voh apne rishte se kya chahte hain, aur ek hi dusre se bore kiss prakaar ho jaate hain ๐คฃ๐ lekin kisi ki uttapeedhna ko dekhakar aap agar apni khushiyoon ka basis banayenge toh aapko kabhi long term khushi nahi milegi, yeah dhyaan mein zaroor rakhiyega ๐ง๐ป♀️
Pehle ek hi ghar mein 7-8 bhai behan hote they, tabh toh yeah manoranjan ka saadhan nahi tha, main yeah nahi keh rahi ki shaadishuda zindagi ko rochak banane keliye jo couples yeah karte hain unka Divorve nishchay hi likha hai, lekin vah 100% loyal nahi hote apni shaadi mein, main aese itne logo ko jaanti hoon, jo apne partner ki nazar mein 100% loyal hain, aur unke bahar affairs ya toh chal rahe hain, aur ya toh chal ke khatam ho chuke hain..aur thodhe time baad vah naya try karne ki hodh mein, next level ki cheezein try karne ka bhi sochte hain, jese 3-some, 4-some aur na jaane kya kya.
Again yeah couple to couple unki needs aur unke uppar depend karta hai. Kamaal ki baat hai ki aese couples ke bachhe bhi hain, aur inka pariwaar kaafi sukhi bhi hai..khair kisi pe bhi hum comment karne yogya ban jaayein aesa hum apne jeewan ke aakhri saans tak kaabil nahi bante, jisko jesa chalana hai, vah uski marzi.
Isiliye bolte hain soch aur manoranjan par toh koi lagaam nahi, aap isko jitna apne upar haavi hone denge yeah utna hi haavi hoga..manoranjan ke aese itne madhyam hain, ki aap apne partner ke saath discover kar sakte hain, ek daayare mein rehkar..dayare se bahar toh khair har ek cheez hi aape se bahar ho jaati hai..
Jo log extra-marital affairs mein padhte hain, koi kewal ‘fun element’ ke maksad se shuru karte hain, aur aage jaake kya hota hai aap sab vaaqif hain hi..zaroori nahin ki extra marital affair mein padhte samay jesa aap feel karte hain, aap khatam karte samay bhi vesa hi kewal fun element feel karein.
Sex karne se, chemical release hota hai couples ke beech, jo unko bandhta hai, jode rakhta hai, yeah science hai, isiliye Sex ek taboo na banakar usko samjhein ki aakhir kyun zaroori hai ek grahst jeewan keliye.
Testosterone pills lena shuru karne se pehle, kuch log koi bhi action karte hi nahi hain apne bedroom mein, bass kyunki uss se performance badhiya hota hai toh เคนोเคก़ hai bhag rahe hain peeche, arey bhai dikhaye par mat jao, apni bhi akkal lagao ๐๐คฃ
Performance pressure ka pressure toh tabh kaheen jaake lijiyega ki jab aap apne partner keliye attraction kho hi baithe hoon, aur mere maan-ne mein jo koi bhi kehta hai ki shaadi bachane keliye Porn dekh lo ya nazar andaaz kar do, chup raho, jaane do, bachcha kar-lo yeah sab salah unke liye hoti hai, jinke paas Shaadi ka mahtav saanf nahi. Kitni, aur main studies ke mutaabik bata rahi hoon, kitni shaadiyaan kewal Respect aur responsibilities par hi jami huyi hain, unmein pyaar kab ka khatam ho gaya hai..toh kewal pyaar se shaadiyaan chal rahi hoti toh aaj India population par number 1 desh kabhi nahi hota bhai ๐๐คฃ๐
Shaadi sada keliye hoti hai, lekin agar aapke partner ke samajh ke hi bahar hai yeah concept, toh aap chah kar bhi kuch nahi kar sakte.
Aapka Porn dekhna, uska addict banna, aapke partner ke vyavhaar ki vajah se nahi ho sakta, aapke mann ki stithi unke vyavhaar par nirdharit nahi ki jaa sakti, voh cheat karenge toh kya aap bhi cheat karenge !?
Agar iska answer NO hai, toh voh chahe kuch bhi karein, aap sahi baat kehne se kabhi peeche nahi hatein ๐ ๐ป♀️
Bina jhagde bhi baatein hoti hain, voh Sorry feel nahi karte, kyunki unki aankhoon mein vah sahi hain, toh aap kyun apne aap ko dosh dete hain !?
Do chup logo mein jitni baatein hoti hain, utni do bolne vaalon mein kabhi nahi hoti - yeah Fact hai.
Unki life cycle ka karma vah khudh niptenge, aap apni life cycle mein rahein. Baaki Supreme Court ki new ruling ke anusaar abb 6 months ka bhi wait karne ki koi zarurat nahi hai, Instant Divorce lago kar diya gaya hai.
Shaadi bachane ke liye nahi ki jaati, Shaadi ki jaati hai nibhaane keliye, yeah choti si baat hai, agar aap aur aapka partner iss se sehmat hain tabhi Shaadi mein rahein, nahi toh apne apne raaste jaayein.
Main aesa isliye keh rahi hoon bhai kyunki main bhi shaadishuda hoon, Shaadi todhna kisi ka mann nahi hota lekin agar aapka partner shaadi ke maaiyene hi nahi samjhta toh Shaadi mein rehna bhi Diabetes ko chunauti jesa ban jaata hai ๐
Aap jab bhi udaas hote hain toh chocolates ๐ซ hi aapka sahara banti hain, toh chocolates bilkul hi bandh nahi kar deni chahiye, kyunki aajtak roone ke baad mood uplift karne keliye, kisi bhale maanush ne Sprouts ๐ฑ toh nahi hi khaaye hain bhai ๐๐คฃ lekin chocolates par hi nirbhar rehna apna mood uplift karne keliye bhi zehar hai, isliye karein sab lekin napa-tula ๐๐ป♀️
Khush rahein, mast rahein, aur partnership mein rahein sada keliye ๐ค❤️๐

