When someone does something wrong, don’t forget all the things they did right. Your wound is probably not your fault but your healing is your responsibility. Believe it or not, there isn’t single person in this life you need more than yourself. Put yourself First.
It takes a lot of energy to hold on to what’s not meant to be, learn to let go, train yourself everyday to pick peace over drama and distance over disrespect, and always remember everything you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for.
Do not focus your healing on making sense of why someone would want to cause you pain, because you will never know their true intentions or whether they actually intended to hurt you or not. It’s better to aim to accept instead of to decode, dissect, or justify what happened. Getting stuck on trying to make sense of it is a form of resistance to feeling it or an escape from it. And all that is a distraction from doing the real work, from going back to the root and extracting the pain from the source.
The way they mistreat you says everything about them and nothing about you, always remember that.
Therefore, if you hate someone, you hate something in them, that is part of yourself, because what isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us and this is exactly why you can’t heal yourself while you are constantly hating someone. You’ll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart, and your heart will always tell you, that
for your own healing stop hating that someone, stop driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did and instead do the real work, help yourself and learn to set boundaries so that no-one can take advantage of you the next time, and help everyone not to mistake your boundaries as an attack on their egos.
P.S : everyone wants to be in a relationship for years, but everybody is not ready for the bad days, the crying, arguments, communication, going wrong. Relationships are not fairytales & it’s not easy. If you love each other, then you have to stay solid through it all and make it work.
Forgiving someone isn’t approving how they wronged you, rather it’s not longer allowing their wrong to define you ; when you constantly need something from someone you can’t love them, that need can be an apology, justification, respect or reciprocation of your emotions, love is unconditional and if you want love, you have to stop loving someone who refuses to love you, please know it’s not your job to fix others, it’s ok if others get angry, it’s ok to say no, it is not your job to take responsibility of others, you do not have to anticipate the needs of others, but it is your job to make yourself happy, it’s your job to accept that nobody has to agree with you and you need to be ok with that, you have a right to your own feelings and that you are ENOUGH. You are not what others think you are, you are what god knows you are, smile 🕉❤️🙏🧘🏻♀️
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