One of the things that comes easily to every human being is being selfish. It is uncanny that the word bears negative connotations.
I remember a Dialogue from How I Met your Mother ( a sit com on TV) where Lilly ( a protagonist on the show ) asks Marshal " What is the nice word for Selfish !? "
and he says " Independent".
My rendezvous with the Feeling has been since long. Recently it was on account of an experience that made me feel evil. Some-one known to me cut his wrist and blead heavy, something similar my Sir did by hanging himself from the ceiling about 2.5 years ago on account of attempting a Suicide. And he was rushed to the hospital and recovered. I was very happy with his recovery and finding him absolutely ok was a relief, but I couldn't stop myself from thinking- why didn't my Sir had that Luck !? why did he survive and my Sir didn't !? And to be very Honest I was more upset for my Sir than I was happy for my known's recovery. Shear evil by the books right !? But I guess I have made peace with it that I am " Independent".
I guess people relate to things more easily once they make it about themselves. I have to admit that in my case it's a wee bit much. But don't we honestly live in a world where
Hypocrisy = Opinionated, Ego = Self Respect, Stupid = Daring, Agnostic = Secular, Idiot = Adventurous and yup Selfish = Independent !?!!
As we grow up we get beyond text book definitions and accommodate more meanings to every word. Our dictionary stems out of convenience. I guess convenience drives principles as well now.
I am not defending my Impulsive reaction. I know somewhere I have not come in terms with My Sir's death and mostly I was always Selfish. But the "good part" is some of my biggest acts of kindness and friendliness are an outcome of this so called vice. I am nice to people because at the end of the day it makes me happy.
I think of all the power that the human mind has the power to reason is the strongest. It helps us to look at our vices and give them a practical twist. We reason to be accepted not just in others eyes but our own. I guess it helps me conclude that being Selfish is really ok, as long as I can reason it.
8 comments:
mind is strongest ... no doubts ... no one can beat mind
@ Deepak : The power to reason is the strongest..Supreme !!
power to reason comes from power to imagine ... power to have power .. u cant beat madness in imagination ... but u can always have a heart that rules over brain
Hmmm... interesting. It made me realize why being selfish is a good thing.
According to Webster's Dictionary:
Selfish - adjective, concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.
Then How can being selfish be a good thing?
The world is filled with people running around like chickens with their heads cut off trying to make ends meet for other people for other people's reasons and whims.
I'm not talking about all requests. I'm only referring to those that you do not have to say yes to. You know which ones these are.
And in the process of saying yes to all these things you forget your own well being. Instead, you go for the short term gain to make the other person happy. But at what expense?
People who do not focus on their self tend to underperform, be overworked, exhausted, stressed out, underpaid, disorganized, and most importantly, unhappy.
Sound like someone you know?
when you are focusing on what is most important for yourself you will be much more available to help others when they need it.
How to manage your opportunities is not learning how to say no. Most of us know how to do this. In fact the issue is in managing your yes's.
P.S.
absolutely !
Selfish ... best described
Reasoning can get wrong as well ! If one has a strong mind then only that person can give correct reasons for the selfishness. . Personally, i never felt that being selfish was right but after reading these thoughts, i feel being selfish can be a fine thing..depending on what/whom I am selfish for ..
Thanks.
It was more to draw attention to the word "imperfection" Shivam and hence, right and wrong are purely relative, each is to own! Whats right for me, might not be right for you and vice versa. Vices can be soveniers we earn over a period of time. So always have a reason. As far as you have one, its going to feel just about PERFECT.
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